two legged hearts

I remember I was hurriedly trying to buckle my then 4 year old into her carseat. I was, again, rushing to another appointment and was barking orders to her and lamenting about something she did that displeased me. She grabbed my cheeks with her little hands and with a maturity beyond her years said, “oh, mommy. It will all be okay. I promise. It will be okay.” I paused, kissed her little face and agreed with her.

Children have a way of healing our hearts. I used to tell my daughter all the time that she made my heart happy. Why have I stopped telling her this? Not only does she make my heart happy, but she has healed my heart. SHE, in essence, has made everything okay. She healed the bitterness I held in my heart for my ex-husband (who started a family with another woman while married to me). Her cuddles and flittering kisses healed my broken spirit in the darkest days of my cancer treatment. She has healed the void my mother’s death left in my life.

A friend commented to me once the our children are just our hearts walking around on 2 legs. Seeing my heart reflected honestly in my daughter has helped heal the ugly parts of my heart. Children are those mirrors of ourselves. They reflect our successes, our failures, our dreams and our hopes. My daughter is one of my life’s greatest teachers when I take the time to learn.

She is also, one of my life’s greatest healers.

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